Every other Wednesday evening/night there is a big public concert over at the lake in our town. Just some local jam band artists that are sometimes classic rock and sometimes blues... a regular grab bag of music. They also have a food truck from the neat hippie restaurant downtown and a bunch of bouncy houses for the kids. We've only been once and that was with our new neighbors who are super duper friendly and wholesome. Definitely need to put the grandma behavior sensors in place for these people... and they are younger than us!
Anyway, we decided last night we were going to stop and get some sandwiches, some beer and pack up the cooler an head down to the lake concert. Just the two of us. As we are making the trek from the parking lot far away and through a park to get to the lake, we see our other neighbors behind us with their 4 month old little girl. They are super nice people and pretty much demanded that we sit with them so we did. They were meeting up with people that they had only met briefly who have two boys of their own (5 1/2 and 16 months). They are a younger couple that moved here from PA and what the heck... the more the merrier, right? Right. So then these neighbors of ours find this other couple at the concert randomly who are pretty much their best friends. They also have a daughter who is 2 and a 4 week old little boy. Everyone was super nice, but holy cheese and crackers did I feel out of place. They actually said to me on a few different occasions how we are the only ones without "accessories". I'm not sure how I feel about that. I mean, they were nice people but definitely not the picnic in the park with food and beer/wine that I am used to. They were constantly chasing the toddlers around and it just didn't seem like fun at all. I guess that's a brief enough point in the whole child rearing process... right? right? right?
Then two of the ladies were talking about how they are planning to be pregnant by a certain month. Like the end of August. Dude. You just popped one out. But they have this weird thing about planning so the kids can wear the same clothes and so that their birthdays are exactly however many months apart. I'm really not sure I'm like these people. They have kids, amazing bodies, and are completely fine with the fact that these newly mobile monsters run their life. Second thoughts anyone?
My thought is this:
ReplyDeleteYou go at your own pace. Some people like being baby machines and having everything timed out. Some people don't.
Also, you do have to become ok with the fact that the mobile monster run your life. BUT, you witnessed it in one evening. It takes time to become ok with giving up/changing your life, I think. I don't think you have a kid and then WHAM! suddenly you're totally fine with having zero amounts of your previous life anymore.